When you married your spouse, the last thing on your mind was getting a divorce. However, over time, you’ve realized that your relationship is not what you expected. You get into arguments, aren’t interested in the same things and are growing apart.
If you’re contemplating divorce, it’s important to start the process in the right way. Before you ever let the request for a divorce escape your lips, it’s smart to start collecting information about your finances. You should take photographs of important assets and make sure you have a list of the items you brought into the marriage.
This is also the time to think closely about if a divorce is what you want. Before you talk to your spouse, think carefully about what you’ve done to save your marriage and if a divorce is really what you want. Some things you may want to do first include:
· Learning new coping skills and ways to communicate
· Having a heart-to-heart with your spouse about how you’re feeling
· Asking your spouse to go to couple’s therapy
· Start looking at ways you can change that may benefit your marriage
If you do all these things and don’t see a way to stay married, then it’s time to take your documents to your attorney.
Should you talk to an attorney before your spouse about divorce?
It depends on the situation, but it is normally a good idea to talk to your attorney first. Why? They’ll give you tips on the information you need to collect and the documents that would be beneficial for your case. They may provide good guidance on handling the conversation when you tell your spouse you want a divorce. They’ll also help prepare the divorce petition, which you will need to serve to your spouse.
Your attorney will talk to you about all the different documents they’ll need to get your divorce started. Until then, collect as much documentation as you can and start saving some money in a separate account to prepare for your divorce. This is just the start of the process, but doing these things may help you move forward more easily.