No matter how you look at it, divorce is an emotional and complex process. Throw in social media and it becomes even more complicated. We post and share about everything on social media – our successes and failures, our daily happenings, our pictures and events and our career aspirations.
Social media is an everyday part of our lives, but it can get in the way if you’re in the midst of a divorce. As hard as it might be, try to limit or avoid using social media while you’re going through a divorce.
Don’t incriminate yourself
Posting on social media while you’re involved in a court case of any kind can have unforeseen complications and hurt your settlement. Attorneys will be looking for any information they can find about you, and a social media post can cause you unintentional trouble.
Information you share and post can be taken out of context and potentially incriminate you, even innocent information. Vacation photos when you’ve claimed you can’t afford a spousal support payment or late-night party pictures might bring into question your ability to parent.
If you need to post, be careful
Anything out on the internet is hard to take back. If you must post, give careful consideration to what you put out there to keep things amicable and protect yourself against the information coming back to bite you:
- Avoid posting about the details of your separation. Your social media community doesn’t need to hear about how you decided child custody.
- Take the high road and avoid talking badly about your soon-to-be-ex-spouse. Other family and friends, and maybe even your kids, may be mutual friends with your ex. Disparaging remarks can be hurtful and add more conflict to your proceedings.
- Keep things simple and avoid oversharing on any topic – even well-intended information. It’s best to fly under the radar for as long as possible.
At least until your divorce is settled, it’s best to lay low from social media if you can. Anything about you on the internet is admissible in court, so try to be inconspicuous for a while. An experienced divorce attorney can help you to manage your accounts appropriately and advise you on the best course of action to ensure the best possible settlement.